I'm really not trying to be rude or hurtful, but
Other times, something I am innocently saying can be construed as mean.
I caught myself the other night on this second point. Brynne was sitting in Mama's lap reading a book and Hadley REALLY wanted to do the same. I told Hadley to climb on up as there was plenty of room for the both of them.
Julia didn't hear this, I don't think, and if she did she didn't take it as an insult to her. It was obviously not meant to be one, but I understand how it could be seen as taking a shot at her. She knew what I meant, but she may be in the minority when it comes to understanding how my brain works.
The benefit of writing is that I have a chance to edit what I want to say. I type, save, leave, revisit, amend, and publish.
The other benefit of writing and not immediately publishing is the ability to have my better half review my work to ensure my message comes across as intended.
It's easy to undo something before it goes public. Trying to backtrack and clean up the mess is another story. Once it's out there, it's out there forever. Whether you speak it or publish it, if one person sees or hears it, the damage is done.